Believe it or not, your baby is already one month old! Where did the time go? If you’re feeling a bit overwhelmed between taking care of your child, helping your partner as she recovers, and balancing your new work-life balance, you’re not alone!
As you’ve more than figured out by this point, raising a child is a full time job. Add that to the everyday hustle of a 9 – 5 workday and you’re probably wondering how you ever had time to do anything else before you had kids. Don’t worry though, as you start to figure out how to balance (or more like juggle) all of your new and old responsibilities, you and your partner will find time to enjoy many of the activities you used to.
In fact, by the time you’re reading this, you and your partner probably feel a lot more comfortable with your parenting skills than you did just a short month ago. Keep it up, you’re doing a great job!
By now you’ve probably gotten used to your baby’s routine of eating, sleeping, crying, and pooping – not necessarily in that order. As you enter the second month, be prepared your baby’s personality to start showing. In other words, be ready for your little one’s adorable little coos and ahhs to melt your heart in ways you never thought possible.
Most babies add one to two pounds and grow one to two inches during their first month and typically go through another growth spurt around six weeks – hopefully you didn’t invest all your baby clothes money in newborn sizes! Of course, every baby is different, so if yours gained or grew more or less than the average, that’s okay! The most important thing is that your baby is happy, healthy, and growing. Your pediatrician will be able to give a better analysis of your child’s growth.
Have you noticed that your baby turns to look at you when you talk? That’s because after the first month, his or her hearing is completely developed. This month, his or her eye sight will continue to improve as will their senses of smell and touch. To keep baby happy, try and keep soft blankets and sweet smelling items nearby.
Babies in their second month will most likely still be clenching their hands into little fists all the time, but they should start jerking their arms and legs around as he or she is developing their reflexes.
Probably the most exciting upcoming milestone this month is that your baby will begin to smile. It’s super adorable and when you add it to the cooing, or when he or she begins to start laughing, there’s truly nothing better in this world.
During the second month, you’re going to want to keep your eyes peeled for several developmental red flags. If you notice any of the following, contact your pediatrician immediately:
- slow feeding or trouble sucking
- no response to bright light
- no response to loud noises
- poor tracking of objects with his or her eyes
- a trembling jaw when he or she isn’t crying
- little to no movement of arms or legs
- overtly loose or stiff limbs
At this point, you’ve already learned your baby’s cues for when he or she is hungry. In fact, many parents even say they can differentiate their baby’s “hunger cry” from normal crying.
If your partner is breastfeeding, your child is most likely still eating every two to three hours, or three to four hours if baby is on formula. If you’re bottle feeding, it’s recommended that baby consumes a four ounce bottle every four hours.
At one month old, your baby should still be eating only breast milk, formula, or a combination of both. Most doctors suggest babies remain on this diet until about six months old, when they can start having water, too.
If you were hoping to get more consistent sleep after the first month, you could be out of luck. 1 month old children still need fifteen to sixteen hours of sleep, but how that’s dispersed is completely depending on the baby.
If you have concerns about the sleeping habits of your baby, it’s best to take those up with your pediatrician, however, there are two major concerns most new parents have with their one month old baby, either he or she won’t go to sleep or will sleep all day and stay awake at night.
If your baby isn’t sleeping, there’s a good chance he or she could be over-stimulated, uncomfortable, or may just want to cuddle. Check to make sure his or her clothes are fitting properly and make sure to put down your phone, turn off the lights, and turn off the t.v. when putting baby down. Think of it this way: if you couldn’t fall asleep with it, chances are baby can’t either.
On the other hand, if you baby is sleeping during the day and not much at night, there’s a good possibility he or she suffers from “day/night confusion.” The cause of this could be from any number of different possibilities. He or she might have an illness which makes them sleepy, outside stimulus might be keeping them awake, or they might just be extra sleepy during the day. Try to figure out what the root issue is and see if it’s something that can be taken care of at home or if a visit to the pediatrician might be in order.